Ilobola, Umkhehlo and Umembeso

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Today I will be talking about things drama, the lows and highs of Ilobolo Umkhehlo and Umembeso. Ilobola is the most important thing that needs to happen when the Zulu girl finally says "mom and dad I've met the one" however she does not say it herself but the family members of the person that wants to marry her has to come to the girls home and have people formally presenting on his behalf.
Lobola starts the process of marriage. Lobola is an expression of honour to the parents but also an undertaking of responsibility to the spouse.Paying lobola shows commitment on the part of the bridegroom and it is a serious demonstration of the love of the man for the woman – love not just in words but also in deeds.
Lobola is a public acknowledgement that the marriage is genuine. Because of lobola, the husband and wife cannot easily separate and divorce. There must always be discussion with the family members before marital separation. In the olden days, this made marriage more binding.
Umkhehlo is where the guys family come to the girls family with cloths and the slaughter a cow in celebration of their marriage with the girls family at her home.  People that practice the Shembe culture during this even come with what we call incoyi red mud put on the woman's scalp (isicolo) and cow cloth that the girl wears underneath her formal cloths to show respect to her new family, her husbands family.
Umembeso
umembeso is a traditional ceremony where the Groom's family buys gifts for the brides family. This is done after the ukuvuma ceremony before the wedding.
Ukuvuma is to welcome the groom to the brides family by slaughtering a sheep. Most cultures do this. In sotho it's referred to as hohlbisa mahadi- I stand corrected.
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  1. UnknownJune 8, 2019 at 2:52 AM

    Thank you for the information, very resourceful indeed.. One question though, in this whole process when does the girl's family visits the boy's family. If there is such; may I ask what is the name of that ceremony?

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  2. leratoAugust 5, 2019 at 9:53 AM

    Ingabe uMkhehlo ngokosiko lwakithi kwaZulu uyimpoqo ukuba udlalwe (ukuthi umakoti asine esigcawini)? Ngoba ngokwazi kwami nangophenyo engike ngalwenza kubantu abadala, umkhehlo kuwukufika komkhongi kanye nabasemzini belethe inkomo kumakoti kanye nezipho njengezimpahla ukuze mase egqokile mezomveza ukuthi yena usefanele ukugqoka njengomakoti. Ngalelo langa umakoti uyaye afakwe insoyi ekhanda eyinkomba yokuthi uselungele ukuba ayogana useyingodosu yomuntu. Ukudlala esigcwawini akusilo neze usiko kodwa kuwukuba abantu bazijabulise nje.

    Umakoti udlala esigcwamini mhla egcagca emzini ngosuku lomgcagco. Kungani abantu bakithi bewathanda amasiko kodwa bengawalandeli ngendlela okuyiyo. Uzwe umndeni usiphoqelela ukuba sisinele umkhehlo bethi asiyikulungelwa lutho ngoba singasinanga kanti akunjalo, uma nje abasemzini sebelethile izimfanele zenkehli basuke sebeqedile

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    1. UnknownMay 28, 2020 at 4:25 AM

      yebo ubalulekile kodwa kuyangokuthi ngesikhathi abakwamkhwenyana bezolobola bavumelana kanjani ngesikhathi kuxoxwa ezamalobolo njengokuthi umkhwenyana kube uyena okukhehlisayo inkomo yokukhehla noma bavumelane ngokuthi ubaba wentombi uzozikhehlisela yena intambazane ngoba abakwamkhwenyana bekhokhe ngendlela efanele

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    2. UnknownMay 29, 2021 at 9:02 PM

      Sengathi besingajula la emkhehlweni nanawu umembeso

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  3. UnknownNovember 23, 2019 at 4:03 AM

    Ngicela ningichazele kabanzi ngomkhehlo

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    1. UnknownJanuary 21, 2021 at 9:21 PM

      Umkhwenyana uyazikhehlela inkehli yakhe. Uma eyithole iyintombi nto, kodwa ke noma ingasesiyo uyakwazi ukuzikhehlela uma inganangane(kuba kuye umkhwenyana). Uma uyithole isinengane noma izingane ikhehlwa nguyise wayo.

      Umkhehlo awukwazi ukuba khona usuku lo Dwendwe lunganqunyiwe ngokosiko. Kodwa manje siyabona bekhehla kuphele imnyaka embili nangaphezulu lungakhuphukile uDwendwe.
      6-12 wezinyanga ezamukelekile ukuze lukhuphuke uDwendwe.

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  4. UnknownJune 12, 2020 at 5:12 AM

    Thanks for your information it will really help me with my Assignment 🤞

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  5. UnknownJuly 2, 2020 at 7:36 AM

    Ngcelukbuza ukuthi umuntu uyakhehla yini lungakahlelwa usuku lomgcagco ngoba kthiwa ukhehla sekusele u 6 month ugcagce

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  6. UnknownAugust 16, 2020 at 2:13 AM

    Mina ngicela ukwazi ukuthi uma ulotsholiwe, kwavunywa abakhwanyana (umkhehlo) then kwaba nomembeso, just gifts, ingabe usuke usushadile ngokwesintu?

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    1. UnknownJanuary 21, 2021 at 9:28 PM

      Yebo kunjalo, ngoba uma kuyolotsholwa kuyabikwa emsamu ukuba kuyolandwa ubani ngalezi nkomo, ozoba yin la emagcekeni.
      Yingakho uma kwenzekile lwagcina lunganyuka uDwendwe bese dadewethu bemthatha kwesinye isibongo kusuke sekumele beyokulobola la ubusulotsholwe khona.

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  7. UnknownMay 18, 2021 at 6:12 AM

    sacela ukubuza,after amalobolo singawenza umembeso ngenyanga eyodwa? iziphi izilwane ezidingekayo kumembeso? singashada ngosuku lomembeso sisho amavows kubekhona nomfundisi?

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  8. KhozaJune 2, 2021 at 2:58 PM

    Kuyenzeka umkhehlo wenziwe ngaphandle kokuhlatshwa kwe nkomo?

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  9. UnknownJune 6, 2021 at 4:39 AM

    Mina ngicela ukubiza uyakwazi yini ukukhehla ngosuku lomshado usebenzise umhlwehlwe wenkomo le ehlatshwa ngosuku lomshado wenu??

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  10. AnonymousJune 17, 2021 at 9:46 AM

    Mina ngicela ukubuza yini eyenziwa kuqala phakathi kwamalobolo nomembeso/izibizo? Ngabe kuqala umembeso kugcine ilobolo okanye kuqala ilobolo?

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  11. UnknownApril 4, 2024 at 6:33 PM

    Ngicela ukbuza if umkhwenyana ekthole usunomtwana so ubaba athathe kuzona inkomo ezphuma kamkhwenyana akuhlehlise umkhonzo ngizowuphulaphi njoba sengilotsholiwe nje plz help

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